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Dispatches from an unwilling wild woman: Going feral under protest

I forgot my tweezers.

This sounds like a minor to non-existent problem. But if you know me at all, you’ll get why this is causing me no small measure of agita.

Originally used to pluck a stray eyebrow, my Tweezermans have become a trusted partner in my fight against whiskers, nose hair, and middle age. As I march toward 50, my body is starting to betray me. It’s particularly painful because it’s been so good to me for decades—only a few gray hairs poke out through my brunette dye job. My skin, thanks to hats, sunscreen, meticulous skincare, and some strange deal with the devil I’m unaware of, takes a decade off my appearance. My body is pretty much the same shape, give or take 15 pounds, that it’s been since my 20s.

But I’ve been waging a daily war against facial hair in all forms for quite some time. I’ll be washing my face in the shower when I feel the beginnings of a stiff chin whisker. In front of a steamy mirror, I hunt and peck until I gain purchase with the slanted point of my tweezers. Muttering to myself like Jack to Rose as he freezes in the mid-Atlantic, “never let go, never let go.” If I lose my hold on the whisker nubbin or break it off, it will take another day or two to pinpoint it between my tweezers.

I don’t have crazy nose hair but over time, tiny black strands have started to creep out like sentient beings looking for escape from my dim nasal cave. Those are a bitch to pluck, but at least I can see them.

The biggest problem these days, however, is my mustache. I’ve never really had to bleach or wax my lip because the hair was light and sparse. Not so much any more. Darker hairs have sprouted among the light fur that is coming in fast and making me furious. I do a daily check, tweezers in hand, to ferret out the biggest offenders. About once a week, I try to take out a lot of the lighter peach fuzz so I don’t look like a 13-year-old boy trying to grow his first ’stache. I stopped waxing a while back because I got a red rash and little white bumps all along my upper lip after the hair was ripped off my face. With my tweezers, I can control my pain and the aftermath.

This brings us to now. I’m on a four-week workcation with my bushy eyebrowed partner (another reason for the tweezers) on a remote island in the South Pacific. A week in, a screw came out, dislodging one of the temples on my prescription sunglasses. After panicking for a day, I put a paper clip through the tiny holes and temporarily fixed the problem. But I haven’t been able to find a lifehack for the tweezers.

I’ve thought around the problem, trying to Macgyver something. My partner pulls at his stray eyebrows like someone afflicted with trichotillomania. Nothing found in nature will dislodge my hair, however. None of the kitchen utensils are delicate enough to do the job. I wondered if the clip on my pen could clamp down on the biggest offenders but the angles are all wrong. Maybe nail clippers could mow down my mustache.

We joke that we’re going feral, but secretly I don’t find it that funny. I find it slightly mortifying. I embrace the wild woman within me, but don’t want to look like a savage on the surface. I planned on letting my hair go on the trip, knowing a color and cut would get trashed by the sun and watersports, and scheduled an appointment for the week I return home. I stopped wearing makeup here except for a little CC cream with SPF on my cheeks because everything just slides off in the humidity. But the hoary hairy signposts on my face suggest not acceptance of aging, but of a surrender. Vacation is a time for relaxing so I guess that means relaxing my beauty standards and giving myself over to the experience. But I’m not ready to wave the white flag just yet.

Secret of a skincare junkie: Brynn Strader at Jill Bucy Skincare

I thought I’d write some posts about my favorite people, places, and things. And because I’m vain, I thought I’d talk about my skin and who helps me keeping it looking so youthful. I’ve never had fillers or Botox and yet I’m consistently mistaken for someone way younger than 47. Part of my secret is that I never go outside. Here’s the rest of the story:

I’m a skincare junkie. I used to happily play the beauty guinea pig for Allure magazine, acting as their Seattle reporter. I got spray-tanned in the middle of a heavy rainstorm. By the time I walked back to my car, the drenched cuffs of my jeans had wiped away the tanner so while the rest of my bits and pieces were sunkissed, my ankles were chalky white. I got bikini-waxed in the winter, I went to a celebrated stylist to have my hair colored…after I had just paid for a single process the week before.

I loved it all.

But I held a special place in my heart for facials. With each new esthetician, I believed I’d find the answer to unblemished, radiant, youthful skin. When I went to Jill Bucy Skincare for the first time, it was on assignment for Allure.

That was six years ago and I’m still hooked on their French facials and Biologique Recherche products and treatments. Protecting the skin and building it up is a distinctly European philosophy, exotic and strange in the face of a lifetime of hearing that I should scrub, scrub, scrub. Exfoliate. Use Retinol. Get glycolic peels. All of this had aggravated my rosacea and resulted in contact dermatitis. I backed away from foaming cleansers, abrasive exfoliants, and products front-loaded with parabens and scent. My skin cleared up during that first facial with Jill and I became a loyal devotee.

brynnJill herself has moved on but I’m still in excellent hands. I just visited Brynn Strader (more on her here) for a treatment, and found myself needing to share the experience.

Let me walk you through the French facial (I know, that sounds dirty), customized for my sensitive, middle-aged skin:

Brynn started by cleansing my skin with Lait VIP O2, a gentle cleansing milk for my delicate skin, massaging it onto my face and neck. Yum.

She followed it with BR’s famous P50, a watery liquid that balances the pH level of the skin, moisturizes, and exfoliates. It really is unlike any other product and I use it twice a day, swiping it on my face, neck, décolletage, and back of my hands. Applied with a thin cotton pad, Brynn swirled it over my skin until it tingled. In a good way.

Next up was Lotion MC 110. Similar in texture to P50, it further exfoliates and tones the skin.

I was sufficiently prepped for the next step. Eschewing steam and extractions, both of which would aggravate my skin’s redness, she applied Soin Lissant to one half of my face. Soin Lissant is a combination of lotion and powder, mixed to a client’s skin, and rich in Omega 3 and hyaluronic acid. It provided some slick so that Brynn could “restructure” my skin and the muscles beneath with a stimulating, lifting treatment. I can only describe it as a quick, pulsing massage that moved from the neck upward. It rocked.

Between the P50, the Soin Lissant treatment, and Brynn’s skilled hands, my skin was invigorated.

The rest of my body, however, was beyond relaxed. I was so checked out that when she applied the Visolastine Masque to the left side of my face, I fell into a waking sleep. In my dream state, I believed her to be my boyfriend, and I talked to her and answered nonexistent questions, while she repeated the treatment on the right side of my face.

Bless her heart, she didn’t bat an eye. She just proceeded to give me a hand and arm massage before removing the masque with warm compresses, and applying finishing serums and creams.

To bring me back to life, perhaps, Brynn brought out what looked like two metal porkchops. Called Cryo-Sticks, they were kept in the refrigerator until my treatment. She gently applied them to the rosacea on my cheeks, reducing the skin temperature and limiting vasodilation. And yes, the sticks were bracingly cold. I thought they might stick to my skin, the way the kid’s tongue was glued to a frozen flagpole in A Christmas Story. Thankfully, they didn’t stick but the results did. When I looked in the mirror later, my complexion was even and my cheeks looked like I had put on foundation or CC cream because the redness was at an all-time low. Instead of looking like rosacea, it just looked like I had a natural glow. Genius.

The beauty of Brynn is her commitment to treating each client individually, discovering how best to target different skincare issues. “I like seeing a client come in and knowing that I can help her to relax, even temporarily. I enjoy having a one-on-one connection and focusing exclusively on a client’s specific needs.”

If you’ve haven’t been in for a facial for a while, or if your skin feels dull, or if you feel that nothing you try improves your skin, I’d urge you to give Brynn and a Classic French Facial a try. Treatments start at $100 and go up, depending on your customized treatments, and I can’t recommend them enough. Jill Bucy Skincare changed my entire attitude around skincare, which was no small feat, considering that I was weened on beauty magazines and the beauty industry. The results speak for themselves. This is what 47 looks like!